Although we are attracted to people who are very different from us in the way we deal with the world, we are most attracted to others who have a similar focus in their lives. Couples who have the same dominant function in their personalities seem to have the longest and happiest relationships. So, for example, an individual whose dominant function is Introverted Sensing (ISTJ or ISFJ) seems to be naturally drawn towards partners with a dominant function of Extraverted Sensing (ESTP or ESFP).
We have also noticed that Sensors seem to communicate best with other Sensors, and that Intuitive seem to communicate best with other Intuitive. There seems to be a more equal partnership formed with people who communicate on the same level, although there are many successful relationships between Sensors and Intuitive. Two individuals of any type who are well-developed and balanced can communicate effectively and make a relationship work, but many people will communicate best with people who share their same information gathering pereference.
With that in mind, it shouldn't come as any sruprise to learn that research regarding Personality Type and Relationshops shows a definite pattern which indicates that succesful mates often share the same dominant function, and the same letter preference ("S" or "N") for their information gathering function. Of course, that does not mean that people with different preferences cannot have a happy, successful mariage, it simply indicates that people frequently settle down with individuals who are on their same "wave-lenght"
And above all, have fervent love for one another:for love shall cover the multitude of sins. --Peter 4.8
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